Deep cybersex

This wasn’t the post I thought I would publish after coming back from my holidays; there where more interesting items, like what I had seen on the beach, the ayes and noes about RL disclosure or how different SL love can be for RL married and single people.

The deep (cyber)sex post has been resting in my draft folder for some months, and never seemed the right moment, or I hadn’t the right mood. Tonight, after some restless hours (it was two in the morning when I started writing this), I have decided that the wrong moment and the wrong mood could do the trick, as a sudden noise starts an avalanche, and so here you have it.

***Beware, this is definitely a NSFW post***

I have my turn-ons and my turn-offs, and one of the “ons” is anal play. To be true it isn’t too pleasurable, but it may be very intimate, since we are talking about one of the most private places of our body, considered dirty even when we clean it carefully. In our aseptic society, it is very hard to let somebody touch you “there”.

Also, the anus is a very delicate valve; it need to be lubricated and caressed thoughtfully if you don’t want the experience to be painful… and so, the feeling of being slowly conquered (or slow conquest), combined with the privacy I mentioned previously… well, as I said, it may be a big turn-on *smiles*.

While I deeply believe that we shouldn’t restrict ourselves from touching or kissing any part of our lovers’ anatomy, since the whole body is magical and sacred (yes, I know how mystic that sounds :-p), it is also true that I don’t like my feet to be kissed, since that smelly couple never seem to be clean, even after the intensive use of pumice.

So, whatever I like to believe, feet kissing and/or licking is a big turn-off for me, one I can’t avoid. There are also some deep sex practices I will never try, like fisting, even if reading about it made me understand that what seems a gross experience can be very, very intimate.

Cybering is a whole different matter, since our avatars are “dirty” only if we decide to, and we don’t feel pain… at least, the physical one. This is an advantage up to a point, because it is  too easy to trivialize cybersex missing the closeness it may bring, and centering only in the kink.

Deep cybersex needs the right ambience and mood, if you want it to be true: people you love, feeling naughty and vulnerable. That may bring very intimate moments to be treasured, and stronger relations.

Having the right partner is very important, because there is nothing like seeing your deepest taboos trivialized into a porn film to make you feel dirty. But also, the moment and theme are crucial, since you may hit a wrong mood or a huge turn-off; then comes the rejection, that should be done with care and love if you don’t want to see how the day becomes a sad thorn of shame.

Deep sex may open the more private doors of a relation, but may also close them forever. My little experience tells me you should only try it in the safest ways, talking about it in advance, being sure there is an agreement, even if that means spoiling most of the fun… because the snow is tricky and, when the avalanche falls, you may not be able to ride your hurt feelings.

Since it is so dangerous, why try? Because it pays in closeness and confidence, because is nice to know how far you can reach with go couple, knowing you are safe trying, or at least talking about it, and also because it is so fucking naughty and exciting!